I used to think I was just "bad with money." After my divorce at 23, I walked away from everything and gave my ex-husband all my savings out of guilt, stepping into a money story defined by debt, scarcity, and shame. But now I understand that my problem wasn't a lack of financial literacy—it was financial trauma, and if you've ever felt a tightness in your chest when checking your bank account, or felt anxiety even though you have "enough" on paper, this episode explores how your relationship with money is often actually about safety, identity, and your nervous system trying to protect you.

Rahkim Sabree is a financial therapist, Accredited Financial Counselor (AFC®), Trauma of Money Certified Practitioner, TEDx Speaker, and the author of Overcoming Financial Trauma. He has worked with individuals, corporate teams, HR professionals, and financial advisors, and brings deep insight into bridging the gap between financial literacy and trauma-informed care.

► Why financial advice often feels incomplete, and the difference between financial therapy and financial planning.

► Why you're not "bad with money"—and why your perceived "bad decisions" are actually normal nervous system responses to abnormal circumstances.

► How fight, flight, freeze, and fawn show up in your daily money behaviors, from overworking to actively avoiding your bank account.

► The ways jobs, hustle culture, and entrepreneurial ventures can reinforce financial trauma.

► What it sounds like to actually set financial boundaries, talk about money more honestly, and find healing in community rather than isolation.

00:00 Introduction to Financial Therapy

05:05 Understanding Financial Trauma

06:57 The Human Aspect of Money

09:28 Defining Financial Trauma

11:43 The Impact of Wealth on Trauma

13:30 Navigating Financial Systems

14:47 Personal Stories and Financial Decisions

17:14 The Concept of Financial Literacy

20:02 Responses to Financial Threats

22:52 Flight, Fight, Freeze, and Fawn in Financial Contexts

27:30 The Impact of Fawning in Relationships

29:46 Economic Warfare and Workplace Trauma

31:31 The Misconceptions of Entrepreneurship

33:31 Financial Boundaries and Relationships

36:53 Community and Financial Healing

46:34 Shifting Perspectives on Financial Trauma

Learn more about Rahkim Sabree

►Instagram: @rahkimsabree
►Website: Overcomingfinancialtrauma.com
►Substack: Rahkimsabree.substack.com

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When life gets overwhelmingly "lifey," your nervous system might be sending you signals of perceived danger and threat. This episode explores the power of pausing to track the physical sensations happening in your body and offers a simple path to reconnect with the quiet, peaceful trust inside you.

Jay Moon Fields is a coach and educator specializing in nervous system regulation and somatic awareness. She has worked extensively with successful professionals (who are also just ordinary people) to help them realign with their essential selves by first meeting themself at the physiological level.

In this episode, Jay discusses:

► How to reconnect to trust when everything feels uncertain and you are consumed by fear

► The specific imagery that brings her back to a sense of calm every damn time

► How to track your nervous system in real time by paying attention to bodily sensations

► The distinct patterns of thoughts, physical sensations, and behaviors associated with the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn stress responses

►A moment to reconnect with a sense of okness in your body

► Why the world desperately needs more regulated nervous systems right now and how you can be a part of it

Learn more about Jay's Programs

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/

► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B

► Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching

► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Credits

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.
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You have pyrobably heard it your whole life: "You're too sensitive." If you feel things deeply, get overwhelmed easily, and notice every detail of everything, you might be wondering why you process the world with such extraordinary depth. Today we explore what it actually means to be a Highl Sensitive Person (HSP) and why it is a neurophysiological trait rather than a stress response.

Muriel Kosovsky is a business owner and coach who has worked internationally for over two decades as a teacher, senior leader, and mentor to support highly sensitive leaders and contributors navigating the workplace. She's the author of the forthcoming book, HSPedia, a comprehensive blueprint for highly sensitive people.

► The four levels of sensitivity that can be activated in highly sensitive people

► Why many HSPs struggle at work—and the kinds of support that actually help

► The non-negotiable qualities HSPs need for relationships to be sustainable and healthy

► The surprising variant of HSP that craves intensity, adventure, and even danger

► The one quality successful HSPs tend to organize their lives around

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B
► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.
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Lily Shepard walks (and dances) her talk. She's a trauma-informed movement educator and somatic stress relief practitioner who teaches women how to live and lead from their bodies, not just their heads or conditioning. We discuss what happens when you realise you have been taught to perform as a person, and how to transition from performing your life to actually living it. Discover practical tools for learning how to use your body as an ally, overcoming being fragmented by the different roles you play, and claiming your birthright to pleasure.

In this episode, Jay and Lily discuss:
► Why real power isn't a perfect performance and how movement aids self-expression and healing
► How exhausting it is to negotiate your presence in multiple roles and how to move fluidly between them
► Practical exercises for arriving, grounding yourself when entering a room, and staying present
► Why optimising life can kill pleasure, and why it's about small daily moments rather than Instagram-worthy experiences
► How to avoid becoming the sum total of the expectations of everyone around you

00:00 - Embodiment and Movement: A Personal Journey

10:05 - The Shift from Performance to Healing

20:11 - Navigating Fragmentation in Roles

30:03 - Creating Rituals for Transition and Presence

36:41 - Embodiment and Accessibility

47:44 - The Pleasure Principles and Ongoing Journey

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bodyintelligence_academy
► Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lily-shepard/
► Lily is giving away 3 free copies of her audio book Pleasure Principles for Driven Women to the first 3 people who reach out to her on IG or through email.

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B
► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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What happens when the path you've been told to follow starts to feel intolerable?

In this episode, we explore the uncomfortable space of not knowing what's next and the courage it takes to choose what actually delights you instead. Jay and Sasha dive into the friction between cultural expectations of consistency and the messy, multifaceted reality of a life lived in alignment with one's curiosity.

Sasha has done a lot of different things. She's published 3 books—two on cheese and one on menopause. She's been a project manager, cheesemonger, podcaster, shopkeeper, restaurant manager, human resources assistant, copywriter and book coach. Her latest venture is Paper Jam Reuse, which is a reuse project focused on using paper to inspire people to create low-stakes, high-satisfaction creative projects.

Her numerous professional reinventions have given Sasha deep insight into the internal "ick" that signals a need for change.

In this episode, Jay and Sasha discuss:

► Distinguishing between what you think you should want and what actually brings you delight.

► Recognizing the physical and emotional cues that a role or project is no longer aligned.

► Why it's so tempting to reach for crummy opportunities just to avoid the embarrassment of being unmoored.

► How unpredictable bodily changes can destabilize your sense of identity and reality.

► A simple and surprising tool to stay present during moments of overwhelm.

Learn more about Sasha Davies

► Websites:
https://paperjamreuse.com
https://www.sashadavies.com/

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paperjamreuse/

► Other links: The Menopause Companion (Book)

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Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/

► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B

► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching

► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Today's episode is about grief. Or at least it starts out that way, but the conversation evolves into being about authenticity, purpose and desire. And weirdly, as you listen, you'll find that these topics make sense together. Because for as heavy and all-encompassing as grief feels while you're in it, it's inseparable from some of the most essential questions in life. Who am I? What am I here to do? And what do I really want?

Uma Girish is a Grief Companion, Human Design guide, and the author of four books, including Sacred Fire: Memoir of a Marriage. She works with women who are grieving a loss and feeling lost, helping them navigate not just the death of a loved one, but the "lower-case losses"—breakups, changing roles, diagnoses, empty nesting, and the years spent not choosing themselves. Uma serves as a compassionate witness, helping women listen to what grief is asking of them and who they are becoming in the process.

► Grief as an Identity Reset
► Spiritual Bypassing vs. True Feeling
► The nervous system's and mind's common responses to loss
► Human Design as a Soul Map
► Reclaiming Desire

► Website: https://umagirish.com/
► Substack: Light After Loss (via website)
► Book: Sacred Fire: Memoir of a Marriage
► Special Offer: Uma is offering a free 20-minute Human Design Highlights reading to the first two listeners who email her with their birth details.

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B
► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Have you ever felt like your nervous system is pressing the gas pedal and the brake at the same time? In the first solo episode of Season Two, Jay explores the often-overlooked "Fawn" stress response, a survival strategy that prioritizes connection over authenticity. If you find yourself shape-shifting to please others or losing touch with your own needs to keep the peace, this episode will help you understand that it isn't a personality flaw; it's your nervous system trying to keep you safe.

Jay Moon Fields is a somatic coach, author, and the host of Hey Wait. She works with people who struggle to stay connected to themselves while connecting with others, bringing deep insight into nervous system regulation, embodiment, and "unfawning."

► The "Hey, Wait" Tool: Using two simple words as a reset button to interrupt default patterns and reorient to your own needs.
► Defining the Fawn Response: Understanding the fourth stress response (alongside fight, flight, and freeze) as "responding to a threat by becoming more appealing to the threat."
► The High-Functioning Fawner: Why fawning often hides in plain sight, looking like competence, empathy, and success on the outside while feeling like numbness and resentment on the inside.
► A Personal Confession: Jay shares a vulnerable (and slightly ridiculous) story about fawning at the airport with her husband.
► The Path to "Unfawning": An introduction to the steps required to heal, including nervous system regulation, reparenting, and parts work.

If you're interested in learning more about Jay's signature online program, Yours Truly, that teaches you the steps to heal fawning, visit https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly.

Use the code heywait-100 at checkout to receive $100 off your registration.

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B
► 1:1 Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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This week's episode feels less like an interview and more like a homecoming. Jay sits down to steep in a conversation with Angelo Lazenka, one of her main mentors who shaped her life and work.

Angelo is wilderness rites of passage guide and the former Director and President of the School of Lost Borders. He has worked with thousands of individuals seeking growth and insight in the wilderness and brings deep insight into the practice of living, dying, and the healing of the "lie of separation."

At 72 years old, Angelo is stepping away from the role of guide and moving into the next chapter of elderhood. In that way, this conversation comes from a "liminal space," the in-between times when you are no longer who you were, but not yet who you are becoming.

► What rites of passage really are—and why they are so rare and necessary in our time.

► The vital distinction between self-improvement and true intimacy with life.

► Healing the "lie of separation" between ourselves, nature, and one another.

► Navigating the shift from adulthood into the rich, stewardship-focused territory of elderhood.

► How to answer the call of "that which you've always been, but have yet to become."

► Website: www.schooloflostborders.org

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B
► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.
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Original Music produced by Dalton Grant