Dr. Amir Levine is a psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and bestselling author of Attached - the book that became the internet's go-to guide for understanding relationships. His new book Secure picks up where it left off.

We're told some of us are just "clingy."

Some of us are just "distant."

That's who we are.

So we blame ourselves and keep repeating the same patterns. If a missed text can ruin your day… If you pull away the second someone gets close… If you keep ending up in the same kind of relationship…This episode is for you.

EPISODE CHAPTERS:

00:00 – How Insecure Relationships Age You

06:17 – The Anxious-Avoidant Trap

12:32 – Why Avoidants Get a Bad Rep

21:27 – Where Attachment Styles Really Come From

28:51 – The CARP Method for Dating

34:14 – Wall Tennis With Love

43:10 – Gut Instinct vs. Anxious Spiral

52:57 – One Piece of Advice for Each Attachment Style

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We’re told getting older means losing value.
So we chase youth like it can save us.
Tell ourselves we’re “still young.”

But after my full conversation with Poorna Bell, I’ve been reflecting on something deeper…

Aging isn’t the problem.
The story we’ve been sold about aging is.

Because some people hit 40, 50, 60…
and become more themselves than ever.

More certain. More grounded.
Less interested in performing for everyone else.

Fear says your best years are behind you.
But often your best years begin when you stop trying to prove anything.

Maybe wrinkles aren’t decline. Maybe they’re evidence.

Maybe slowing down isn’t failure. Maybe it’s wisdom replacing urgency.

And maybe the people most afraid of aging,
are the ones who never learned how to live now.

If getting older scares you…
ask whose voice that really is.

Because it might not be yours.

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We're told that aging is something to dread.

That it means slowing down. Becoming invisible. Losing your edge.

So instead… we obsess over looking younger. We buy the creams. We scroll past women our age doing incredible things.

In this episode of Why Do I, I'm joined by Poorna Bell - journalist, author, competitive weightlifter, and martial artist - whose new book She Wanted More charts what aging really looks like for women in their 40s, 50s and 60s.

If you've ever felt invisible in a room full of younger people…

If you've ever thought "I'm too old to start that"…

If you've ever tied your worth to how you look rather than what you can do…

This episode is for you.

EPISODE CHAPTERS:

00:00 – Why Are We So Scared of Aging?

08:44 – How Your Reasons for Training Should Change

18:31 – How Poorna Became a Competitive Weightlifter

28:56 – Why the Algorithm Is Keeping You Stuck

36:26 – Who Decided What Relationships Should Look Like?

46:31 – What Hundreds of Women Had in Common

57:04 – The Freedom of Being One Person Always

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