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Still Figuring It Out

Still Figuring It Out

By: Emily and Marc Pitman
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Welcome to the our podcast! We, Marc and Emily Pitman are excited to invite you to join us as we explore leadership, life-together, and still figuring it out even after 30 years!2025 Economics Leadership Management & Leadership Relationships Social Sciences
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  • SFIO 403 - Where Your Foot Lands: The Hidden Center of Change
    Apr 15 2026

    📋 Episode Summary
    This episode begins, as many do, in the wonderfully ordinary—missing pillows, pollen season in Greenville, and the small negotiations of shared space. But quickly, the conversation pivots (intentionally and unexpectedly) into a deeper exploration of transitions—what they are, how we navigate them, and what truly anchors us when everything feels like it's shifting.

    Marc reflects on the modern pressure for certainty in leadership and life, while Emily reframes the idea of "pivot" from a tired buzzword into something embodied, grounded, and even elegant. Drawing from dance, grammar, coaching, and spirituality, they explore what it means to have a true pivot point—not just a change in direction, but a grounded place from which meaningful movement happens.

    The conversation unfolds into a rich, layered reflection on agency, identity, and perspective: Are we the ones acting, or the ones being acted upon? And how might shifting that lens change how we move through seasons of transition?

    🔑 Key Takeaways
    • A true pivot isn't just a change in direction—it requires a stable, grounded point to turn from.
    • Modern leadership often craves certainty, but today's reality demands adaptability rooted in values.
    • We tend to oversimplify problems by searching for a single cause instead of recognizing broader systems.
    • Transitions invite curiosity and expectancy—not just problem-solving or loss-focused thinking.
    • Language shapes perspective: shifting subject and object can radically change how we understand our role in change.
    • Agency in transitions is more complex than control—it may involve both acting and responding.

    🗣 Quote Highlights
    "Pivot is the act of pivoting… but it's also the place where your foot lands before you turn." – Emily

    "I think it's more realistic to ask, what are the guiding principles…rather than what's the five-year plan?" – Marc

    "I remember the strength and the sassiness I felt when I learned to pivot turn." – Emily

    "I have an amazing ability to find one thing to blame in what's actually a systemic issue." – Marc

    "We often focus on what we're losing in transitions instead of being curious about what's coming." – Marc

    "The pivot point is you—and the action you take toward those things." – Emily

    "We don't impact everything… sometimes we're the ones being impacted." – Emily

    🧰 Tools & Mentions
    • Merriam-Webster (definitions of "pivot")
    • WordHippo (word exploration tool)
    • Pivot tables (Excel reference)
    • Dr. Nadia Nuxemblyva / Reinvention Lab
    • Anne Handley ("Justice for M-Dashes")
    • Robert Webber (writings on worship)
    • Richard Rohr (the "divine dance")

    👥 Who Should Listen
    • Leaders navigating uncertainty and tired of rigid long-term planning models
    • People in a season of transition who feel pressure to "figure it out" quickly
    • Coaches, facilitators, and consultants exploring deeper frameworks for change
    • Couples or partners working and growing together through life transitions
    • Anyone wrestling with control, agency, and meaning in times of change

    🎺 That Music!
    Special thanks to Lexi Moreno, Caleb Pitman, and Zoe Czarnecki for the original music.
    Lexi Moreno – composing / mixing / mastering / guitar
    Caleb Pitman – composing / mixing / trumpet
    Zoe Czarnecki – bass

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    19 mins
  • SFIO 402 - The Unseen Shift
    Apr 8 2026

    📋 Episode Summary
    In this episode, Emily and Marc take up the word shift and explore it from several angles: literal, emotional, vocational, and spiritual. What begins with fish tanks, threshold art, and a joke about spelling quickly turns into a story about an unexpectedly manual rental car in Germany, a long-delayed train trip, and Marc's sudden return to driving stick shift after decades away from it.

    From there, the conversation deepens. A stick shift becomes a metaphor for all kinds of life changes: the shifts between work and home, pride and self-consciousness, intention and muscle memory, control and listening. Emily names the in-between moment of pressing the clutch — disengaging before re-engaging — as its own kind of threshold. Marc reflects on the difference between switching off and actually shifting, and both of them notice how much of life is less about forcing control than learning to listen and adjust.

    It is a thoughtful, funny, grounded episode about noticing what is changing beneath the surface — and what it might mean to meet those changes with curiosity instead of strain.

    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Shifts are often smaller and subtler than big transitions, but they still shape how we move through life.
    • A literal stick shift became a vivid metaphor for unexpected adaptation, muscle memory, stress, and learning in real time.
    • The space between gears matters: shifting involves a moment of disengagement before re-engagement, not just a hard stop and restart.
    • Marc reflects on how difficult it can be to shift from work to home when the work is meaningful and deeply integrated into life.
    • Emily notices shifts most clearly in energy — body, mind, and spirit — and questions whether those shifts are meant to be controlled or listened to.
    • Pride is not always vanity; sometimes it is about ease, confidence, reliability, and not having to carry extra self-consciousness.
    • Curiosity can be a healthier response to change than forcing, managing, or trying to dominate every variable.

    🗣 Quote Highlights

    "A shift, to me, says adjust." – Emily

    "That's when I realized the unseen shift. The stick shift." – Marc

    "There's a point of disengage and re-engage where we're back to that threshold." – Emily

    "I think I do live in liminal spaces, and relish that." – Marc

    "I think it may be a listen to and adjust." – Emily

    🧰 Tools & Mentions

    • WordHippo.com
    • Shift work in factories and hospitals
    • Driving stick shift / standard transmission
    • German train delays
    • Leiden, Netherlands
    • Bremen, Germany
    • Enterprise Rent-A-Car
    • ChatGPT as a travel helper during the rental-car scramble
    • The Autobahn
    • Sabbath as a weekly forced switch away from income-producing work
    • Thresholds and liminal space
    • Aquarium life: neon tetras and snails
    • The "Brew House" threshold picture above the garage

    👥 Who Should Listen

    • People navigating subtle but meaningful life changes
    • Anyone adjusting to unexpected travel, work, or family stress
    • Work-from-home people who struggle to shift out of work mode
    • Listeners interested in liminal space, thresholds, and everyday metaphors
    • People exploring how energy changes through the day and how to respond with more awareness
    • Anyone who appreciates reflective conversations that begin in ordinary life and end somewhere deeper

    🎺 That Music!
    Special thanks to Lexi Moreno, Caleb Pitman, and Zoe Czarnecki for the original music.
    Lexi Moreno – composing / mixing / mastering / guitar
    Caleb Pitman – composing / mixing / trumpet
    Zoe Czarnecki – bass

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    24 mins
  • SFIO 401 - At the Threshold of Season 4
    Apr 1 2026

    📋 Episode Summary
    Season 4 opens with Emily and Marc doing what they do best: starting in the middle of real life and letting the conversation unfold from there. This episode sets the theme for the season — transition — and explores it from multiple angles: family life, grief, business shifts, creativity, aging, parenting, and the strange in-between spaces where you do not fully know what comes next.

    Emily introduces the idea of using a different word related to transition for each episode this season, and what follows is playful, thoughtful, and surprisingly grounded. They move from WordHippo rabbit trails to labor metaphors, from no-show certification cohorts to children's books, thresholds, poetry, and the honest recognition that this season of life is asking something new of both of them.

    The result is a warm beginning to the season: part orientation, part confession, part invitation. It is about change, yes, but even more about learning to inhabit change with a little more spaciousness, a little less forcing, and a willingness to be more real than safe.

    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Season 4 is built around the theme of transition, with each episode exploring a different related word or facet of change.
    • Transition is not just a single dramatic moment; it can be a process, a threshold, a departure, a grief passage, a creative opening, or a business reorientation.
    • Emily reflects on transition through the lens of childbirth: the moment of "I can't do this anymore" can actually be the sign that something new is about to emerge.
    • Marc shares how an unexpected business disappointment became an invitation to stop forcing outcomes and instead invest more deeply in existing relationships.
    • Both of them name how much of this season of life includes overlapping transitions: children launching, aging parents, grief, work shifts, and changing identities.
    • Space and rest are not empty; they can become the conditions for creativity, clarity, and a quieter kind of conviction.
    • One of the hopes for this season is to show up less guarded and more honest — to play it more real than safe.

    🗣 Quote Highlights

    "When I'm at the end of my strength that I know I have, then there's more that's within me to follow." – Emily

    "I am free-falling, but I'm totally held." – Marc

    "I don't need to apologize for the fact that I love children's books, and I think that they're really important art." – Emily

    "Playing it more real than more safe." – Emily

    "One of the things that I really enjoy about us is that we continue to grow, and change, and learn." – Marc

    🧰 Tools & Mentions

    • Zoho Projects
    • WordHippo
    • The idea of using one transition-related word per episode this season
    • Birth and midwifery as a metaphor for transition
    • Leadership certification and the transition from pushing for a new cohort to tending existing graduates
    • Epcot's hang-gliding-style ride as an image of being held in uncertainty
    • Chicago and "He Had It Coming"
    • Thinking on Thresholds: The Aesthetics of Transitive Spaces
    • The Eric Carle Picture Book Museum in Amherst, Massachusetts
    • Children's books as serious art
    • Poetry Foundation's poem-a-day podcast

    👥 Who Should Listen

    • People navigating a season of personal or professional transition
    • Couples who work, build, and reflect on life together
    • Parents adjusting to children launching into adulthood
    • Adults caring for or thinking about aging parents
    • Creative people trying to make room for what feels quietly true
    • Anyone learning to stop forcing the next step and live more honestly in the in-between

    🎺 That Music!
    Special thanks to Lexi Moreno, Caleb Pitman, and Zoe Czarnecki for the original music.
    Lexi Moreno – composing / mixing / mastering / guitar
    Caleb Pitman – composing / mixing / trumpet
    Zoe Czarnecki – bass

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    28 mins
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