There's a town on the east side of Maui where the road runs out before the island does, and one Wednesday night I sat on the steps of a rented room and realized I wasn't ready to leave. So I moved the flight, annoyed a few people back home, and stayed three more days. Those three days are the reason I remember the trip at all. This first episode is the truest thing I know about how I travel: I stay longer than I should, almost every time, and I've never once regretted it. It's about what actually happens to a place in your mind around day three, the difference between visiting somewhere and being in it, and why the good stuff — the old man on the black sand beach, the empty morning a stranger walks into — almost never happens in the part of the trip you planned. I'm honest about the other side of it too, the extra days that stay flat and gray and give you nothing. You can't have the one without risking the other. Chapters: (00:00) The Thursday she almost left on (01:19) What this show is (and why "living intentionally" sounds like the back of a candle) (03:45) Why day three is when a place stops performing for you (04:58) The black sand cove, the fisherman, and the seaweed (07:27) Visiting a place versus being in it (10:19) The honest part: sometimes the extra day just rains (12:34) Depth is a choice you make at the cost of breadth (13:46) The question to carry: what would I find if I stayed? Full episode notes and transcript: https://tideandlightpodcast.com/episodes/why-i-stay-longer-than-i-should/