There's a better way to let go.

I feel somewhat urgent about this conversation. I want to save you from the potential harm and grief that cutting cords can create.

You cannot let go of something that you are aggressively trying to let go of. It's like gripping and shaking something that you actually want to put down.

I learned this the hard way during a breakup. I did what I was told: invoke the energy, cut the cords. But the visual I had was all these cords being severed, still dangling off each of us. Raw. Hostile. A little bit violent. I still had healing work to do to integrate those manky tendrils hanging off me.

It just didn't feel good.

For the majority of our angsty, unpleasant entanglements, cutting cords makes things messier than they need to be.

Here's the physics: What you push away pushes back and grows stronger. What we embrace transforms us. This is blessing and releasing, and it's what makes for a clean exit.

Listen in for some wisdom that I'm throwing down from my new book Bless & Release. And then we're doing the Centering Practice together... Not for someone you've been wanting to cut cords with, but to heal the wounded part of yourself that feels you need to cut cords in the first place.

With Love,
Danielle

As mentioned in this episode:

• Order Bless & Release: daniellelaporte.com/bless

• Join us on Sundays at 9am PT | 12noon ET for Bless Club. A free weekly LIVE practice with Danielle LaPorte. 15 minutes. Every Sunday. Save your seat: daniellelaporte.com/blessclub

Am I worthy of my desires?

So gross. So harmful. So NOT how the universe works.

Do you feel other people's feelings like it's your job? Overplan for outcomes you know you can't really control? Always future-tripping what could happen, brain won't rest?

To my fellow control freak empaths—I've got you.

The heart, your vastness, your Higher Self, does not ask questions about worthiness. The ego, on the other hand, talks about it non-stop. Am I worthy yet? Am I worthy now? Does this make me worthy?

We can spend years hustling to prove we're worthy of what we long for. Such a racket.

I've got a simple practice to heal the part of you that asks the worthiness question…

Listen in for an excerpt from my new book Bless & Release. In this episode, we're unpacking worthiness, then we're doing the Centering Practice together.

With Love,
Danielle

As mentioned in this episode:

• Order Bless & Release and get early access to chapters dropped weekly: daniellelaporte.com/bless

• Join us on Sundays at 9am PT | 12noon ET for Bless Club. A free weekly LIVE practice with Danielle LaPorte. 15 minutes. Every Sunday. Save your seat: daniellelaporte.com/blessclub

Winning answer: Not that big

I read an interview with Madonna who said that when people came into her home in LA and they saw her Frida Kahlo collection of paintings, if they didn't like Frida Kahlo, she couldn't be their friend.

If I'm hanging out with somebody who turns non-problem problems into problems… I mean, I can still be their friend, but I just don't really wanna hang out with them.

Here's the sticky question that changes everything…
How big of a problem do you want to make this?

The obvious answer is always going to be, like…
Not that big of a problem.

Problems don't change until you change how you relate to them. (When we bless them.) We can't control the circumstances in our lives, but we can choose how we think about them.

If storms and fires are the work of the Divine, so are flat tires and breakups. All of it is a blessing (even if it's in disguise). Problems become portals when we get excited about transforming them.

Where everyone else sees a roadblock, we can be like, guys… it's a secret passage to higher consciousness.

Listen in for an excerpt from my new book Bless & Release. Spoiler: The book is funny. That's all I want. Well, it's not all I want. It's what I want the most.

With Love,
Danielle

As mentioned in this episode:

• Order Bless & Release and get early access to chapters dropped weekly: daniellelaporte.com/bless

• Join us on Sundays at 9am PT | 12noon ET for Bless Club. A free weekly LIVE practice with Danielle LaPorte. 15 minutes. Every Sunday. Save your seat: daniellelaporte.com/blessclub