"Being connected to your spouse in prayer, even when things are hard, maybe especially when things are hard, is one of the best ways to know that person." ~ Pat Millea

• Why do so many couples want to pray together but never actually do it?
• What do you do when you feel too vulnerable, too proud, or too far apart to pray?
• Is there a method that works, even for couples who have never prayed out loud together?

In episode 100 of This Whole Life, Pat and Kenna Millea take on a topic that listeners have been asking for: how to actually pray together as a couple. Not in theory. Not with a polished formula. But honestly, practically, and in a way that fits real married life with kids, conflict, busy schedules, and the kind of exhaustion that makes even good intentions fall apart.

They dig into why married prayer is so uniquely powerful, including what it means that no one knows your spouse like God does, and why that matters most when things are hard between you. They unpack the difference between rote prayer and spontaneous prayer, and why both have a place in a marriage. And they walk through a specific method of praying together, taught by a priest named Father Scott Traynor, that is accessible, intimate, and surprisingly doable, even for couples who feel completely out of their depth.

Then, to mark the milestone of episode 100, they actually do it. Pat and Kenna pray the Traynor method together, on air, for real, in what may be the most vulnerable and honest moment the show has ever aired.

This episode is for every couple who has wanted to pray together but did not know where to start.

Episode 100 Show Notes (including a downloadable guide to the Traynor married prayer method)

Reflection Questions

Chapters:

• (00:40) — Welcome and episode 100 celebration
• (01:47) — States trivia game
• (14:15) — Why married prayer matters
• (22:00) — The gifts of praying together as a couple
• (33:30) — Praying before conflict: the hardest and most humbling move
• (43:50) — Getting practical: how to start
• (46:50) — The Traynor Method explained
• (52:00) — Pat and Kenna pray the Traynor Method

Links and Resources:

• The Parish as a School of Prayer by Father Scott Traynor

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"What...what are those?"

Don't miss this harrowing tale of escape, invisibility, and survival from Dr. Julia Sadusky 🫎😱

Support the show

Thank you for listening, and a very special thank you to our community of supporters!

Visit us online at thiswholelifepodcast.com, and send us an email with your thoughts, questions, or ideas.

Follow us on Instagram & Facebook

Interested in more faith-filled mental health resources? Check out the Martin Center for Integration

Music: "You're Not Alone" by Marie Miller. Used with permission.

"There is literally nowhere else on the face of the earth I'd rather you go than to me."
~ Dr. Julia Sadusky

• Why do so many well-meaning Catholic parents freeze when it comes to talking to their kids about sex?
• What do you actually say when your child comes home asking about their classmate’s parents?
• How do you talk to your kids about pornography before they encounter it?

In episode 99 of This Whole Life, Pat and Kenna welcome back Dr. Julia Sadusky, licensed clinical psychologist, author, and one of the most trusted Catholic voices in the space of sexual formation. Julia wrote not one but two books to help Catholic parents have these conversations well: one for kids ages zero to nine, and one for teens. This episode is the one your group chat has been needing.

Julia doesn't make this scary or clinical. She walks Pat and Kenna through the common obstacles that stop parents cold, and then gives them real tools. Actual scripts. Practical language for everything from explaining genitalia to a toddler, to responding when your child asks why their friend has two dads, to having the pornography conversation before it becomes a crisis.

The goal isn't a perfect talk. The goal is a relationship where your child knows you are the first place they go.

Dr. Julia Sadusky is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and adjunct professor based in Littleton, Colorado. Her clinical work and research focus on sexual and gender development and trauma-informed care. She holds a bachelor's from Ave Maria University and a master's degree and doctorate in clinical psychology from Regent University.

Episode 99 Show Notes

Reflection Questions

Chapters:

• (00:47) — Introduction and welcome
• (07:30) — Highs and Hards: life lately
• (11:10) — Why Julia wrote the books
• (16:53) — The biggest obstacles parents face
• (24:09) — Why your child's reaction in the moment doesn't measure your success
• (31:34) — It's not one talk — it's a thousand small moments
• (36:20) — What to say when your child asks about two dads
• (43:30) — Talking to your kids about pornography before they encounter it
• (47:59) — A vision of hope for parents
• (50:30) — Challenge by Choice

Links and Resources:

• Start Talking to Your Kids About Sex (Ages 0–9) — Dr. Julia Sadusky
• Start Talking to Your Kids About Sex (Teens) — Dr. Julia Sadusky
• Dr. Julia Sadusky — Website
• Talking With Your Teen About Sex online course

Support the show

Thank you for listening, and a very special thank you to our community of supporters!

Visit us online at thiswholelifepodcast.com, and send us an email with your thoughts, questions, or ideas.

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Interested in more faith-filled mental health resources? Check out the Martin Center for Integration

Music: "You're Not Alone" by Marie Miller. Used with permission.