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The Unconscious Flyness Podcast

The Unconscious Flyness Podcast

By: Patrick Lee & Chad DeShawn
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Unconscious Flyness is a culture-shifting podcast hosted by CookingWithPatLee and Chad DeShawn. This isn’t performative masculinity — it’s evolved manhood.

Each week, two healed and self-aware men unpack self-improvement, emotional intelligence, relationships, current events, and pop culture — all while debunking red pill ideologies with facts, accountability, and humor.

It’s witty banter meets wise words. Growth without ego. Confidence without misogyny. Flyness without trying too hard.

This is what masculinity sounds like when it’s healed.

New episodes air every Sunday!

Patrick Lee 2026
Personal Development Personal Success Philosophy Social Sciences
Episodes
  • Women are Confusing!
    Apr 14 2026

    Women are confusing. And sometimes it feels like we’re speaking a different language.

    In this episode, we playfully discuss the things women do that confuse us. From expectations to communication, we take you inside the cigar room and right into the conversations we’re having.

    It’s all love and laughter. So let’s have fun with it.

    Are women confusing to you? How about the men?

    Tap in and share your most confusing moments from the opposite sex in the comments.

    Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe.

    Contact us through the channels below!

    Our socials: https://beacons.ai/unconsciousflyness

    For Bookings/Promo: Chad@UnconsciousFlyness.com

    Pat@UnconsciousFlyness.com

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    58 mins
  • The Truth About High Value Men REVEALED! Are They Misunderstood Or Just REALLY Toxic?
    Apr 1 2026

    In this episode, we unpack the controversial topic of “high value men” and explore whether they are genuinely misunderstood or if the term has become a cover for toxic behavior.

    With the rise of social media discussions around masculinity, dating standards, and relationship roles, the idea of the high value man has sparked major debate. Some view it as a symbol of discipline, success, and leadership—while others see red flags, control, and unrealistic expectations.

    We break down the key differences between confidence and toxicity, discuss common relationship dynamics, and challenge popular narratives around modern dating.

    This episode is perfect for anyone interested in dating advice, relationship discussions, masculinity, and cultural conversations shaping today’s dating landscape.

    Join the conversation and decide for yourself: Are high value men misunderstood… or just really toxic?

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    11 mins
  • Being Black in the 90s: The Good, The Bad, and the HILARIOUS!
    Mar 23 2026

    The viral question “What was it like in the 90s?” has everyone talking—but this episode goes beyond surface-level nostalgia to explore the real experiences behind it.

    We dive into what it truly meant to grow up in the 90s, especially as Black kids navigating culture, community, and identity before the rise of social media (and thank God we didn't have social media back then!)

    From unforgettable childhood moments to the raw humor of roast culture, we unpack how those experiences shaped who we are today.

    Whether you lived it or are just curious about it, this conversation offers humor, honesty, and perspective on a generation that was raised a little tougher...and laughed a little louder.

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    39 mins
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