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The Save The Marriage Podcast

The Save The Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom Ph.D.
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 Learn how to save your marriage and improve your relationship. Stop your divorce and restore a loving relationship. Join Dr. Lee H. Baucom for this impactful podcast that can save your marriage.© Copyright 2013-2024. All Rights Reserved by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. and Aspire Coaching, Inc. Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences
Episodes
  • CAN Every Marriage Be Saved??

    CAN Every Marriage Be Saved??
    May 13 2026
    People ask me this all the time. And given that my website is called Save The Marriage, most assume they already know my answer. They're wrong. No. Not every marriage can (or should) be saved. I want to be straight about that. There are situations where saving the marriage is not the goal, and pursuing it would be a mistake. If that's where you are, this episode will tell you clearly. But here's what I also believe: far more marriages could be saved than actually are. And the gap between those two things — what's possible and what actually happens — usually comes down to three specific places where people get stuck. Not effort. Not even willingness. Three very specific places. And once you can see where you're stuck, the path forward gets a lot clearer. This episode also takes on the question I hear constantly from people working on their marriage alone: How do I know if it's too far gone? It's an honest question, and it deserves an honest answer — not false reassurance, but not unnecessary surrender either. There's also something in here about regret. Not as a motivational tactic, but as a real consideration. Because regret is what's left when we don't take action we wish we had. And that's hard to undo, no matter what happens next. This is episode 601. That's a milestone worth noting, and maybe worth listening to if you're standing at your own crossroads right now, trying to figure out whether to keep going or let go. The answer to the question isn't the same for everyone. But there's only one way to find out which answer is yours. RELATED RESOURCES: The ARC of Saving Your Marriage There IS No Try Save The Marriage System
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    21 mins
  • Is Your Marriage Bankrupt — Or Just Overdrawn?

    Is Your Marriage Bankrupt — Or Just Overdrawn?
    May 6 2026
    Most people who contact me have already decided. They've looked at where things stand — the distance, the silence, the failed attempts — and they've reached a conclusion: it's too late. The damage is too deep. Nothing is going to work. Here's the problem with that conclusion. It's almost certainly wrong. Not because things aren't serious. They may be very serious. But because there's a critical difference between a marriage that is truly bankrupt and one that is simply overdrawn — and from the inside, those two things feel exactly the same. I've been using a metaphor lately when talking about marriage and connection, and it keeps resonating with people: the Connection Account. You and your spouse have been making deposits and withdrawals into this account your entire relationship. When you're connecting, really connecting, you're building the balance. When life pulls you in other directions, you're spending it down. But here's what most people miss: neglect isn't neutral. Even when nothing is happening, no fights, no drama, just two people living parallel lives, the account is still losing ground. Because there are service fees attached to disconnection. Hurt. Resentment. The slow feeling of being disregarded. Those fees don't wait for you to notice them. They just keep running. So you hit the pause button without meaning to. And the balance keeps dropping. Until one day you look up and realize you're in the red — deeply overdrawn — and you assume that means you're bankrupt. But overdrawn and bankrupt are not the same thing. Bankruptcy isn't a starting condition. In the real world, both financial or relational, it's a conclusion reached after genuine effort has been made and hasn't moved the needle. Most people who self-diagnose as relationally bankrupt haven't actually tried yet. Not with skill. Not with consistency. Not with any real understanding of how connection is rebuilt. They feel bankrupt. And that feeling is real. But feeling bankrupt is not the same as being bankrupt. In this episode, I'm walking through the Connection Account — what it is, how it gets depleted, what the pause button actually does to the balance, and why the fear of bankruptcy may be the very thing keeping you from discovering that you're not. There's only one way to find out where you actually stand. And it starts with making a move. RELATED RESOURCES Dangers of Pause Podcast Episode "Should I Stay or Go" FREE Guide Save The Marriage System
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    17 mins
  • Dials and Switches

    Dials and Switches
    Apr 29 2026
    No, this isn't some electrical engineering idea. Instead, it has more to do with human nature. We often want to find the switch, the on/off switch for some situation. Turn off stress by doing this, turn on fitness by doing this. On or off. With a switch. This causes us to be looking for some super-easy, simple solution... often to complex issues. Particularly when it is a marriage crisis. A marriage -- much less a marriage crisis -- is not an on/off situation, and no simple switch will turn it around. Yet that is what many people want. The solution that is as easy as flipping a switch. Yes, your marriage can be saved and improved, but not with some simple switch. Instead, think about it as dials. Instead of a master switch, there can be a number of dials. Dialing up connection. Dialing down conflict. Dialing up warmth. Dialing down resentment. We discuss this tendency to look for a switch -- and the need to focus on the dials -- in this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast. Listen below. RELATED RESOURCES Why Connection is so Important Dangerous Tricks The No-Contact Rule 3C Approach Save The Marriage System
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    14 mins
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