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The Problem With...

By: James Smith
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 The Problem With… isn’t here to give easy answers - it’s here to ask the uncomfortable questions behind today’s biggest trends and taboos. Each week, host James Smith digs into what’s really going on - from AI to wellness culture - through unfiltered chats with experts and insiders to uncover the truth behind the noise.720232 Social Sciences
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  • The Problem With Tribalism: Michael Morris

    The Problem With Tribalism: Michael Morris
    Apr 21 2026
    Michael Morris joins James Smith to dismantle the popular myth that tribalism is humanity's curse. A renowned cultural psychologist and Columbia Business School professor, Morris argues that our tribal instincts aren't hardwired hatred for outsiders, they're the very adaptations that allowed humans to outcompete Neanderthals, build civilisations, and cooperate at scales no other species can match. 👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com He explains: ◼️ Why tribal instincts are the glue of human cooperation, not division ◼️ How the peer, hero, and ancestor instincts shape every group you join ◼️ Why dating apps and social media distort our perception of attractiveness ◼️ How cults and extremist groups exploit our conformist psychology ◼️ Why ordinary Germans went along with the Nazis — and why you probably would too Chapters: 00:00 The Myth of Hardwired Tribal Hatred 01:51 What's Actually Wrong With Tribalism 03:30 Defining Tribal Instincts Properly 05:08 The Three Waves: Peer, Hero, Ancestor 07:07 Why Humans Evolved Differently to Apes 10:17 Do Chimpanzees Have Culture? 12:02 How Culture Shapes Political Systems 15:22 The Overlooked Positives of Tribalism 19:05 The Small Tribes All Around Us 22:04 How Leaders Actually Change Culture 24:02 Ancient DNA and the Neanderthal Story 28:21 Cannibalism and Neanderthal Inbreeding 29:28 The Trolley Test of Human Decency 33:41 How Homo Sapiens Outcompeted Neanderthals 36:48 Why Groups of Humans Become Apex Predators 37:35 Modern Family Structures and Dating Apps 40:06 The Body Dysmorphia Crisis Online 44:10 Social Media as a Funhouse Mirror 45:14 James on American Political Polarisation 47:11 The Addiction of Virtue Signalling 49:19 Hot Takes and the Race for Status 51:36 Where Status Sits in Tribal Psychology 54:21 Why We Imitate Celebrities and Heroes 56:01 The Asch Experiment and Conformity 59:04 Heaven's Gate and the Mechanics of Cults 01:00:58 The Decline of Young Men's Social Groups 01:03:16 Would You Have Been a Nazi? 01:05:36 The Milgram Shock Experiment 01:06:47 Why Tribalism Is the Solution, Not the Problem 01:10:00 Where to Find Tribal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 11 mins
  • The Problem With Comfort: Anthony (Staz) Stazicker CGC

    The Problem With Comfort: Anthony (Staz) Stazicker CGC
    Apr 17 2026
    👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com Follow Staz on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stazthrudark/ Check out Thrudark: https://www.thrudark.com/ Check out Thrudark on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThruDark Anthony "Staz" Stasziker, a former special forces officer, shares essential life advice on the importance of hard work, discipline, and the problem with living a comfortable life. Staz highlights that true success, much like military training in special ops, is not easily achieved but requires dedication. It's about putting in the effort, not just romanticizing the idea. Chapters 00:00 - Why Comfort Is Making Us Weak 01:33 - The Friction We Desperately Need 06:34 - How Jiu-Jitsu Changed Everything 08:12 - Leaving Special Forces With Nothing 12:14 - The Hidden Force Controlling Your Life 19:28 - Are We Raising a Generation of Losers? 25:02 - From Failed Footballer to Elite Sniper 31:34 - What They Don't Tell You About Special Forces 41:53 - The Future of War Is Terrifying 51:59 - The Real Reason Men Are Falling Apart 56:04 - The Trauma Nobody Talks About 01:00:57 - The Drug Curing PTSD Overnight 01:06:34 - Why He Climbed Everest in 7 Days 01:22:19 - Buried Alive on the World's Highest Mountain 01:43:38 - What He Learned at 29,000 Feet Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 53 mins
  • The Problem With Being Honest: Ian Leslie

    The Problem With Being Honest: Ian Leslie
    Apr 14 2026
    Ian Leslie joins James Smith to unpack the uncomfortable truth about honesty: we can't actually handle it. A bestselling author and host of the Where Shall We Meet podcast, Ian argues that lying isn't a bug in human nature but an evolutionary feature — the very thing responsible for our big brains, our creativity, and our capacity for art. 👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com Ian Leslie On Substack – https://ianleslie.substack.com/ The Ruffian Podcast by Ian Leslie - https://open.spotify.com/show/4Qm30smGRQjhEPUMq49uU8 James opens up about being honest with his employees, hiring a brutally candid editor for his next book, and how a rugby coach telling him he "played like shit" taught him more than any polite feedback ever could. He explains: ◼️ Why lying is a sign of intelligence, creativity and empathy in children ◼️ How the online world breeds dishonesty ◼️ Why office politics is passive aggression at scale ◼️ How trust is the prerequisite for any productive disagreement ◼️ Why sport is civilisation's greatest cage for our warrior instincts Chapters: 00:00 Why Lying Is Hardwired Into Our Intelligence 01:22 The Problem With Honesty Is We Can't Handle It 03:14 The Invention of Lying and Useful Deception 06:12 Why Lying Sits in Our Moral Grey Zone 08:37 When Your Child Should Start Lying to You 10:48 Autism, Theory of Mind and Honesty 12:01 Conformity as a Form of Social Lying 14:30 Self-Deception and the Lizard Brain 15:59 Cults, Ideologies and Online Group Lies 19:37 Interrogation Tricks and Cognitive Load 22:05 Telling Stories Backwards to Catch Liars 22:46 The Jiu-Jitsu Ringworm Test 25:18 Artists as Legitimised Liars 26:24 Bob Dylan's Reinvention and the Line Between Lying and Art 27:18 Embellishment, Storytelling and Social Incentives 28:50 Advertising as a Lie We Collude In 30:08 Dating Dynamics and Honesty With Women 32:29 Why Honesty Is Your Best Bet in the Long Run 34:09 The Woman Who Lied About Her Age 36:04 Botox, Makeup and Physical Deception 38:13 Height, Ethnicity and the Online Dating Filter 41:13 How Digital Breaks Humans Into Packets 41:56 Why Workplaces Are Full of Bullshit 44:14 Office Politics as Passive Aggression at Scale 45:06 James Getting Dropped From His Rugby Team 47:22 Hiring a Brutally Honest Editor 48:40 Trust as the Prerequisite for Honesty 50:00 The Two Channels of Every Difficult Conversation 52:19 Jiu-Jitsu, Conflict Resolution and Primal Urges 55:06 Sport as Civilisation's Substitute for War 57:37 Michael Jordan as a Roman Warrior 57:58 John Jones and the Beautiful Cage of MMA 58:24 The Ashes, the Barmy Army and Sportsmanship 01:00:24 The Gilded Cage of Rules and Norms 01:01:13 Zero-Sum Games and Honest Feedback 01:03:09 Why Participation Medals Miss the Point 01:05:16 Giving Brutal Feedback on Content 01:07:16 Have You Earned the Right to Be Honest? 01:08:26 Ian's Book: John and Paul — A Love Story in Songs 01:11:22 The Creative Power of Love This conversation takes a candid look at why deception is woven into the fabric of human intelligence, the corrosive cost of workplaces where nobody says what they think, and the trust that has to exist before honesty can actually land. Ian's perspective on disagreement, creativity and the relationship channel beneath every argument offers a sharp counterpoint to James's trademark bluntness — and the result is a conversation that will change how you think about every hard conversation you've ever avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 13 mins
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Extremely insightful. Enjoyed the witty delivery in parts.. Cheers for the awesome content 👌

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I'm finding myself going on walks just so I can listen to James, A very knowledgeable man with a great sense of humor. Really enjoying it, Keep it up :)

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