Divorce is an emotional journey with legal and financial consequences – but what happens when the professionals helping you through it don't understand that?

Kate is joined by Annmarie Carvalho, award-winning therapist and former family solicitor, to explore why the emotional side of divorce matters just as much as the legal side – and what that looks like in practice.

We talk about:

• From solicitor to therapist – and why the emotional side of divorce drew Annmarie in
• How to spot a legal professional who truly gets the emotional journey
• Why the five stages of grief is a myth – and what healing post-divorce really looks like
• The skills that help you navigate divorce negotiations more effectively
• Practical tips to support your wellbeing during separation

This episode is for anyone going through separation who wants to feel more understood, more prepared and more in control of how they show up through the process.

Meet Annmarie Carvalho

Annmarie Carvalho is a multi-award winning therapist, trainer and public speaker. Before retraining to become a therapist, she was a family solicitor and mediator at Central London law firm Farrer & Co for over a decade.

Annmarie set up the therapy, training and coaching agency TCC in 2018 with a mission to provide better mental health support and improve psychological understanding amongst lawyers and those working in and around the legal profession.

Since then, she has worked therapeutically with hundreds of members of the legal profession and trained many more, with a goal to help those in the profession ‘stay sane’. Her first book ‘Staying Sane in Family Law’ is aimed at helping legal professionals better understand the psychological demands of family law work.

You can learn more about Annmarie’s work on her website and you can get in touch with her on LinkedIn or on Instagram.

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Ready to take a practical next step?

Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation.

Want ongoing support through separation?

Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on emotional readiness, navigating separation with kindness and moving forward with confidence. Find it on Amazon today.

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Hal Cruttenden has found the funny side of divorce – most recently in his show 'Can Dish It Out But Can't Take It'. But in this conversation, he goes deeper and gets honest about what it's really been like.

Kate is joined by comedian Hal Cruttenden, who talks candidly about his own separation story – from infidelity to dating after divorce, and everything in between.

We talk about:

• How separation affects your confidence and sense of self
• What lazy versus comfortable looks like in a relationship
• Why friendships matter so much during divorce
• Experiencing infidelity and how it shapes your co-parenting relationship going forward
• Dating after divorce and learning to enjoy your own company again

This episode is for anyone navigating separation who wants an honest, warm and at times funny perspective on what life on the other side can look like.

A quick note – this episode includes open discussion of poor mental health and depression, as well as sex. Please listen with care and out of earshot of children.

Meet Hal Cruttenden

Hal Cruttenden is a stand-up comedian, actor and podcaster. In his latest show, Hal Cruttenden: Can Dish It Out But Can't Take It, he discussed the devastation of his divorce - after 20 years of marriage his wife left him. Now, three years on, Hal is determined to stick it to The Man (as long as The Man doesn’t stick it back to him). Packed with hilarious pontificating on middle-aged dating, social media, the insanity of modern politics and the fragility of marriage, Hal talks about swapping supposed security and a silver anniversary, for dating apps and the unexpected shift of being offered life advice by your kids.

You can learn more about Hal and book a ticket to his show on his website. You can also follow him on Instagram, Facebook and X to hear more about his life post-divorce.

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Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on navigating separation with kindness, rebuilding your identity and moving forward with confidence. Find it on Amazon today.

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Shares, crypto, business interests. Complex assets can feel like a foreign language during divorce – but with the right knowledge, they don't have to.

Kate is joined by Tom Francis, Head of Personal Finance at Octopus Money, to explore what complex assets actually are, how they're approached in a divorce settlement and how to feel confident making the most of your finances after divorce.

We talk about:

• What makes an asset 'complex' – and the three levels of complexity
• What can and can't be divided in a divorce settlement
• What to consider when negotiating complex assets
• Tips for understanding your assets and building financial confidence post-divorce

This episode is for anyone who feels overwhelmed by the financial side of divorce – and is ready to feel more in control of their future.

Meet Tom Francis

Tom is Head of Personal Finance at Octopus Money, a money advice brand for everyone. Tom spends his time designing the customer journey to deliver regulated financial advice to the many, using the best of technology and humanity. He’s a fully qualified and chartered financial planner, and before joining Octopus Money, he played a leading role in building and scaling robo-advisers in the UK, including Wealthsimple (which was later sold to Moneyfarm) and Nutmeg.

You can learn more about Octopus Money on their website. You can also hear more financial advice from Tom on the Keep the Change podcast, and follow him on Instagram for bite-sized money tips.

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Ready to take a practical next step?

Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation.

You can also book a free consultation with an Octopus Money expert for specialist financial guidance alongside your separation.

Want ongoing support through separation?

Kate’s book amicable divorce includes a dedicated chapter on navigating finances during separation, including reaching financial agreements based on your real needs (not just 50/50 splits) and guidance on commonly overlooked assets like pensions. Find it on Amazon today.

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If you've ever felt guilty for putting yourself first, this episode is for you.

Kate is joined by Valerie Jones, author, coach and founder of The Selfish Woman movement, to explore what it really means to be a 'selfish woman' in divorce - and why reclaiming that word could be one of the most important things you do for yourself.

We talk about:

• What being a 'selfish woman' really means – and why reclaiming it matters
• How to rebuild self-trust when divorce has knocked your confidence
• The moment Valerie knew it was time to leave her marriage
• The difference between healthy guilt and the kind that holds you back
• Why taking a moment to pause is one of the most powerful things you can do
• Practical ways to start showing up for yourself again

This episode is for any woman who has ever put herself last – whether she’s in the middle of separation, still deciding or rebuilding life on the other side.

Meet Valerie Jones

Valerie Jones is the author of The Selfish Year, host of The Selfish Woman podcast, and founder of The Selfish Woman movement. Her work helps women let go of ‘good girl’ conditioning and people-pleasing, stop seeking external approval and build unapologetic self-trust. Valerie meets women exactly where they are and helps them show up for themselves, fully.

You can learn more about Valerie on her website and buy her book The Selfish Year on Amazon. Complete Valerie's quiz to find out the hidden ways you might be sabotaging yourself.

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Ready to take a practical next step?

Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation.

Want ongoing support as you rebuild after separation?

Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on navigating the emotional journey of separation, as well as practical advice to help you through every step of the process. Find it on Amazon today.

Got a question for a future episode?

Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram.

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You know your marriage is over. But you're still waiting – for the right moment, more certainty, or permission you're not sure will ever come. This episode is for anyone who's been circling the same question and is ready to stop waiting and start moving forward.

Kate is joined by Farhana Hussain, the UK's first divorce doula and author of She's Not Done Yet, to explore what keeps people stuck in the space between knowing their marriage is over and actually applying for divorce – and how moving forward is about choosing to become the author of your own life.

We talk about:

• Farhana’s own separation story and what led her to write She’s Not Done Yet
• Why people wait – even when they know what they want
• Why even amicable divorces can lead to being stuck
• The emotional and practical cost of delay
• Decision fatigue and why divorce is never just one decision
• How to stop waiting for permission and start authoring your own life

This episode is for anyone who feels like their life is on hold - and is ready to stop waiting and start moving forward.

Meet the Divorce Doula

Farhana Hussain is the UK’s first Divorce Doula, founder of the award-winning business My Divorce Doula™, and author of She’s Not Done Yet: A Divorce Doula’s Manifesto for Women Who Refuse to Stay Stuck. Farhana helps people move from circling the same question to making a clear decision they can stand behind, so they enter the divorce process grounded, prepared and able to engage constructively.

You can get in touch with Farhana through her website and you can buy her book on Amazon today.

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Ready to take a practical next step?

Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation.

Want ongoing support through separation?

Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here.

Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on navigating the early stages of separation, including deciding whether your relationship is over and having the separation conversation in a way that reduces shock and defensiveness. Find it on Amazon today.

Got a question for a future episode?

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If you’re navigating life in a stepfamily and finding the dynamics more complex than you expected, this episode offers practical guidance to help you build stronger, healthier relationships.

In this episode, Kate is joined by April Eldemire, a licensed marriage and family therapist and former stepmum, and Bec Jones, Head of Negotiation at amicable, to explore the realities of blended and stepfamily life. Together, they unpack some of the most common challenges blended families face and share thoughtful advice on how to create a more connected and supportive family environment.

We talk about:

• How the 'evil stepmother' stereotype still affects stepmums today
• Common challenges when creating blended families
• Setting boundaries and approaching discipline in stepfamilies
• How the couple’s relationship can shape stepfamily stability
• Building strong relationships with stepchildren over time

This episode is for parents and step-parents building blended families, who want to approach stepfamily life with more understanding, patience and confidence.

Meet April and Bec

April Eldemire is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, former stepmum, and the creator of The Blended Family Alignment Blueprint, a framework that helps couples end power struggles and parent as a united team. While April’s own blended family didn’t last, her journey fuels her passion for helping others avoid the same mistakes she made. With over 13 years of experience specialising in stepfamily dynamics, she’s on a mission to help families replace conflict with teamwork and build homes where love can finally lead.

Having had over 10 years of experience as a divorce lawyer, Bec Jones leads amicable's Negotiation team. She played a vital role in developing the amicable process and is renowned for her empathetic approach. With expertise in child arrangements, blended families and complex finances, she is a fountain of knowledge.

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Feeling ready to take practical steps forward?

Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Or explore our Separating with Children Service – a 90-minute joint session with a Co-parenting Specialist tailored to your family’s needs.

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If you’re separating with adult children and finding it more emotionally complicated than you expected, this episode offers calm, reassuring guidance to help you navigate it with care.

In this episode, Kate shares thoughtful, practical tips for separating when your children are grown. She explores why adult children are still deeply affected by family change and how the way you handle separation now can shape your family relationships for years to come.

In this episode, Kate covers:

• How to talk to your adult children about separation in a calm, respectful way
• What practical conversations to have early with your ex-partner – from holidays and celebrations to future grandchildren
• How kindness, clear boundaries and thoughtful planning now can support a healthier extended family long term

This episode is for parents going through separation with adult children who want to handle it with empathy, steadiness and care, while protecting the relationships that matter most.

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Feeling ready to take practical steps forward?

Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Or explore our Separating with Children Service – a 90-minute joint session with a Co-parenting Specialist tailored to your family’s needs.

Want ongoing support through separation?

Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here.

Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on co-parenting, with practical guidance on supporting your children's wellbeing, talking to them in age-appropriate ways and building a cooperative co-parenting relationship that reduces conflict. Find it on Amazon today.

Got a question for a future episode?

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If you’re trying to feel better after separation and make sense of what healing really looks like, this episode offers honest reassurance and practical guidance for moving forward with self-compassion.

Kate is joined by Corey Seemiller, award-winning leadership professor and author of The Soulmate Strategy, to explore what helped her recover after a split and why continuing to try new approaches was an important part of her healing.

In this episode, we cover:

• Corey’s personal separation story and early steps toward healing
• What worked and what didn’t from the 44 different things she tried to feel better
• How writing a deeply personal book shaped her career and academic research
• Practical, realistic advice for moving forward after separation and building healthier relationships

This episode is for anyone navigating life after a breakup who wants reassurance that healing isn’t linear and that growth often comes from curiosity and kindness towards yourself.

Trigger warning: this episode includes discussion of physical injury, so please listen with care.

Meet Corey Seemiller

Corey Seemiller is an award-winning leadership professor, author and accredited life coach. After her own separation, she experimented with 44 different approaches to healing – a journey that became the foundation for her book The Soulmate Strategy and shaped her academic research on relationships and personal growth. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Time Magazine and Newsweek, and her highly popular TED Talk. She co-hosts the Rock That Relationship! podcast, discussing disasters and successes with breakups, healing processes, dating and relationships.

You can learn more about Corey’s new book The Soulmate Strategy here. For more relationship advice, you can tune in to the Rock That Relationship! podcast

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Need expert help right now?

Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation.

Want ongoing support as you rebuild after separation?

Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on emotional wellbeing and life after divorce - plus an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here.

Kate’s book amicable divorce includes a dedicated chapter about healing post-separation and moving on. Find it on Amazon today.

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