What Fundraisers, Donors, and Doctors Can Teach Us About Sustainability, Mental Health, and the Long Game

In this episode of The Brave and Balanced Fundraiser, Erin is joined by Mary Beth Alvarez, a dual-boarded internist and psychiatrist, public health professional, philanthropist, and longtime nonprofit board member.

Together, they explore why burnout isn’t actually solved by self-care alone… how secrecy and discomfort around money create anxiety for fundraisers and donors alike… and why sustainable fundraising depends on connection to mission, clear expectations, and honest conversation.

Drawing from medicine, mental health, philanthropy, and nonprofit leadership, Mary Beth shares why systems shouldn’t rely on burnout or heroics, how direct asks help people feel included rather than pressured, and what it looks like to play the long game with donors, board members, and fundraising teams.

This episode is for fundraisers who feel the weight of the ask, for donors and board members who want to be genuinely engaged, and for anyone who believes mission-driven work should not come at the cost of well-being.

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A Nervous System Approach to Donor Events, Fundraising Anxiety, and Executive Presence

Have you ever left a fundraising gala feeling outwardly successful but internally depleted?

Fundraising events are high-stimulation environments — filled with noise, hierarchy, expectation, and subtle power dynamics. For many nonprofit professionals — especially empathic or highly sensitive fundraisers — these spaces can trigger nervous system overdrive.

In this episode of The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser, Erin explores:

• Why donor events activate stress responses
• How people-pleasing can masquerade as strategy
• What “energetic self-abandonment” looks like in major gift spaces
• Why embodied presence is your true power position
• A 20-second somatic reset you can use in the middle of any gala

If you’ve ever felt yourself scanning the room, over-accommodating influential donors, or subtly shrinking in high-dollar environments, this episode offers a grounded alternative.

Because your authority in fundraising does not come from hovering near power.

It comes from holding your own.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why fundraising events are neurologically stimulating — especially for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs)
• The difference between strategic attunement and stress-based over-attunement
• How self-abandonment erodes executive presence
• How nervous system regulation builds donor trust
• A discreet somatic grounding practice to reset your energy on the spot

The 20-Second Reset (Quick Reference)

At your next fundraising event:

1. Feel your feet inside your shoes.
2. Let your shoulders drop one inch.
3. Inhale slowly. Exhale longer than you inhale.
4. Silently say: “I am here. In my body.”
5. Notice one physical sensation.

Presence is power.

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How Your Enneagram Type Shapes Donor Relationships, Major Gifts, and Sustainable Fundraising Success

Have you ever wondered why certain parts of fundraising feel effortless — while others drain you?

In this episode of The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser, Erin explores how the nine Enneagram types show up in fundraising. You’ll discover your fundraising superpower, your hidden growth edge, and how your unconscious personality pattern may be shaping donor conversations more than you realize.

This is not a technical deep dive into wings or subtypes. It’s a practical, high-level lens to help you:

• Understand your motivational pattern
• Fundraise from your strengths
• Notice where stress habits may be costing you
• Regulate your nervous system before making the ask

We all carry all nine types within us — but most of us have one dominant pattern that drives our behavior under pressure. When you understand your pattern, you stop fighting yourself and start leading yourself.

Curious about your type?

You can take a free Enneagram test here:
Eclectic Energies (Free Test):
https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test

For a more in-depth, paid assessment developed by Enneagram researchers Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson:
Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator (RHETI):
https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/rheti

If this episode resonated and you’d like personalized support applying this insight to your fundraising and leadership, you can learn more about working with Erin at:
https://vitalistcoaching.com

Fundraising doesn’t require changing who you are.
It requires becoming more conscious of who you already are.

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✨ Stay Connected & Continue Your Fundraising Growth

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Join the community:
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Book a Brave & Balanced Breakthrough Call:
A personalized 1:1 session to support your inner clarity and fundraising wellbeing.
👉 https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough

Learn more about Erin’s coaching & nervous-system based support:
VitalistCoaching.com

Connect on Instagram:
@erinmcquadewright