Talk to us, Shero! Talk to us!

In this raw and deeply personal episode of the Shero Café Podcast, Debbie and Deborah talk about patriarchy, self-trust, silence, power, and what happens when women are taught to abandon themselves to keep others comfortable.

Through personal stories, emotional reflection, and honest conversation, they explore:

• how girls are taught to stay agreeable
• why so many women silence themselves
• the emotional cost of people-pleasing
• what community and self-trust can heal
• how small moments of awareness create lasting change

This conversation moves through politics, culture, family systems, trauma, parenting, and personal growth — all centered around one powerful question:

What happens when women begin listening to themselves instead of only outside voices?

This episode is an invitation to notice the patterns, pause long enough to question them, and begin building self-trust one small moment at a time.

Chapter Markers / Timestamps

00:00 – Why Women Are Taught to Stay Small
02:20 – Growing Up Responsible for Men’s Feelings
04:15 – Personal Stories of Silence and Harm
06:15 – Respectability, Religion, and Patriarchy
09:00 – Learning to Advocate for Yourself
12:45 – The Emotional Cost of Staying Quiet
14:00 – Indoctrination Starts Early
15:20 – How Society Shapes Gender Roles
18:00 – Voting Against Our Own Interests
20:00 – Listening to Outside Voices Instead of Yourself
22:00 – Power, Politics, and Protection Systems
25:00 – Social Media, Predators, and Protecting Children
30:00 – Why Self-Trust Changes Everything
32:00 – Teaching Children Boundaries and Self-Respect
35:00 – When Family Protects the Wrong People
38:00 – The Healing Power of Community
41:00 – Truth-Telling, Honesty, and Respect
44:00 – Why Awareness Matters
49:00 – How Self-Trust Is Actually Built
52:00 – Awareness Is Only Step One
54:00 – The Small Language Shifts That Matter
58:00 – Fighting for Women’s Voices
1:00:00 – One Small Change at a Time
1:02:00 – Trusting Yourself Through Life’s Challenges
1:04:00 – Final Reflections and Closing Thoughts

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Talk to us, Shero! Talk to us!

You’re doing everything right.

You’re showing up. Taking care of yourself. Keeping things moving in your work and your life.

And still… something feels off.

That feeling can be hard to explain. It doesn’t make sense on the surface. You’re doing what you’re “supposed” to do, so why doesn’t it feel better?

In this episode, we gently look at what might be happening underneath.

Because sometimes it’s not about doing more.
It’s not about adding more self-care.
It’s about noticing where your energy is quietly leaking.

We talk about the difference between being depleted and being overextended. How you can be giving, doing, and holding a lot… without enough support or space to steady yourself.

You’ll hear real-life examples of what this can look like:
Saying yes when your body is saying no.
Avoiding conversations that matter.
Overthinking decisions after you’ve already made them.
Trying to hold it all together for everyone else.

These aren’t signs that something is wrong with you.

They’re signals.

Small moments where your body is asking you to notice, pause, and choose differently.

We also explore the role of boundaries—not as something harsh, but as something steady. Something that helps you stay connected to yourself while still caring for others.

This isn’t about fixing yourself.

It’s about learning to listen in a new way.
To notice what feels tight or heavy.
To give yourself one small moment of choice.

Because when something feels off, it usually means something deeper is asking for your attention.

And that’s not a problem.

It’s a place to begin.

0:00 Welcome And The “Something’s Off” Feeling

1:48 Self-Care Without Capacity Fails

3:59 The Oil Leak Analogy For Burnout

6:13 Real-World Signs Of Overextension

8:42 Saying No And Listening To Your Body

13:17 Self-Care Versus Self-Love Choices

15:27 When Giving Money Feels Like Peace

19:04 Restrictive Versus Expansive Energy Clues

23:39 Small Steps Plus Coaching And Community

26:45 You’re Not Weak For Needing Support

Thank you so much for the likes, love, and comments you leave. Not only does it mean the world to us, it helps other women who need to hear it be able to find it.

#womenempoweringwomen
#youmatter
#makeadifference

---CONNECT with Shero Cafe---
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---CONNECT with Deborah Edwards---
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Self Care Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/624202641785785
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---CONNECT with Debbie Pearson---
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Email: deb@debbiepearson.com

Talk to us, Shero! Talk to us!

You know that quiet feeling… something isn’t right… even when everything looks fine on the outside?

We sit with that.

Not to fix it. Not to rush past it. But to name it.
Because more often than not, you already know.
You just haven’t let yourself fully say it.

We talk about the places this shows up—
relationships that look good but feel heavy,
work that checks the boxes but drains your peace,
and those moments where you keep saying yes… while something in you is saying no.

And then there’s the body.

The tight chest.
The clenched jaw.
The low hum of anxiety that never fully goes away.

That’s not random. That’s your body holding the truth you haven’t spoken yet.

We also talk about why this is so hard.

Because it’s not just about knowing.
It’s about what it might cost to admit it.

Belonging.
Comfort.
Familiarity.

Sometimes it feels easier to stay where you are… even when you know it’s not right.

But there’s a cost to that too.

You start to lose trust in yourself.
You second guess.
You override what you feel.

So we slow it down.

We talk about creating space—just enough to hear yourself again.
And from there, making small, honest choices.

Sometimes that looks like a boundary.
Sometimes it’s a simple truth spoken out loud.
Sometimes it’s just admitting… this doesn’t feel right anymore.

Nothing dramatic - just honest.

Because self-care isn’t always comfort.
And self-love isn’t always soft.

Sometimes it’s telling yourself the truth… and being willing to listen.

#selftrust #selfawareness #emotionalgrowth #selfcare #selflove #innerwork #boundaries #personalgrowth #mindsetshift #emotionalintelligence #healing #authenticity

Thank you so much for the likes, love, and comments you leave. Not only does it mean the world to us, it helps other women who need to hear it be able to find it.

#womenempoweringwomen
#youmatter
#makeadifference

---CONNECT with Shero Cafe---
Subscribe: www.SheroCafe.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shero.cafe.podcast/
Email: thesherocafe@gmail.com

---CONNECT with Deborah Edwards---
Let's Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.edwards.372
Self Care Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/624202641785785
Website: https://gratefulom.life/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborahedwards-selfcarecoach/

---CONNECT with Debbie Pearson---
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DebbiePearsonCoaching
Substack: https://debpearsonwriter.substack.com
Email: deb@debbiepearson.com