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Love Thy Neighbor Show

Love Thy Neighbor Show

By: Tom Vann Dan Dennis and Colette Fehr
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Summary

 Love Thy Neighbor is a straight-talk relationship show from Tom Vann, Dan Dennis, and licensed therapist Colette J. Fehr - born the day Colette knocked on their door and they realized they were literal next-door neighbors. Together, they bring 50 years of broadcasting (Dan 30, Tom 20) and 15 years of clinical counseling (Colette), plus real-life reps: Tom's 20-year marriage, Dan's 15-year marriage, and Colette's second, thriving chapter. Expect humor, empathy, and practical advice from both sides of the wall. New episodes every Thursday, wherever you get your podcasts.2025 Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • LTN 31 - Flawed and Damaged

    LTN 31 - Flawed and Damaged
    May 7 2026
    Reigniting relationship spark with affection, novelty, and deeper conversations Relationships becoming transactional with kids, work, and routines Reflection on separation and divorce during a South Beach birthday trip Relief and optimism after leaving an unhappy marriage Story of meeting a future spouse in a dirty New Orleans bar Fantasy vs reality of dating again after divorce Disappointment with emotionally unavailable divorced daters Criticism of people complaining about the dating pool while contributing to it Differences between divorced and never-married people in their 30s Everyone in dating carrying flaws, trauma, and insecurities Men struggling with vulnerability and emotional availability Emotionally healthy commitment-oriented men marrying young Avoidant attachment styles and love bombing narcissists Attraction to exciting but emotionally unreliable partners Joke about finding widowers at funeral home happy hours Women competing for the same highly desirable men Nice men getting taken advantage of in relationships Discussion about lifelong singleness and avoiding relationships Humans needing connection but varying in emotional needs Non-romantic friendships and family fulfilling emotional needs Story of a mother happily staying single for decades Desire for companionship later in life despite independence Men entering new relationships quickly after divorce or loss Wanting companionship and caretaking more than sex in old age Young adults avoiding dating and blaming financial struggles Relationship recession and society becoming less social Digital life replacing real human connection People forming emotional relationships with AI systems Reference to couples therapist Esther Perel and AI dating cases Criticism of AI constantly validating and agreeing with users Debate over younger generations lacking social confidence Story about younger people disliking cold approaches at bars Modern dating shifting almost entirely to DMs and apps Debate over approaching strangers vs sliding into DMs Thrill and adrenaline of flirting and face-to-face attraction Confidence and humor mattering more than looks initially Joke about funny men struggling romantically Fear of modern dating after a hypothetical divorce Height as a major advantage in dating Reference to Richard Dawkins believing AI may be conscious Discussion about AI companions replacing emotional relationships Comparison between cloning pets and recreating emotional bonds Fear of emotionally perfect AI partners replacing humans Concern that frictionless happiness removes meaning from life Gen Z treating relationships more like emotional investments Younger daters being more aware of toxic dating behaviors Ghosting, breadcrumbing, and ghost-lighting explained Intermittent attention creating addictive emotional attachment Comparison between toxic relationships and addiction cycles Humans struggling with ancient instincts in a modern world Comparison between toxic partners and addictive junk food Praise for Krispy Kreme Dots during addiction discussion Mention of Super Size Me and unhealthy cravings Discussion about GLP-1 style solutions for emotional cravings Mention of using Zepbound to reduce compulsive eating Advice to slow down emotionally before attaching to someone Warning against repeatedly taking back disappearing partners Investing in emotionally stable people over exciting chaos Therapy focused on communication and growth instead of fixing people Most people never learning healthy relationship skills growing up Emotionally mature people communicating clearly about commitment Couples therapy helping healthy relationships avoid dead-end patterns Discussion about tone, defensiveness, and nervous system reactions Avoiding difficult conversations damaging relationships over time Shoe storage fights becoming emotional relationship symbols Story about shoe cabinets and ignored sunglass boxes Repeated household habits creating emotional exhaustion Difference between respectful requests and nagging Advice to frame conflict around emotional impact instead of blame Importance of understanding over winning arguments Healthy communication preventing resentment and circular fights Joke that shoe storage may be the biggest relationship issue Promotion for the podcast Insights from the Couch ### Social Media https://tomanddan.com https://x.com/tomanddanlive https://facebook.com/amediocretime https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive Where to Find the Show Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682 Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2FtZWRpb2NyZXRpbWUvcG9kY2FzdC54bWw Tom & Dan on Real Radio 104.1 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990 Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s ...
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    52 mins
  • LTN 30 - Piles of Secrets

    LTN 30 - Piles of Secrets
    Apr 30 2026
    Love Thy Neighbor rebranding discussion and tone shift Dan jokes about appearance, gray sideburns, unshaven look Beard dye trends and contrast of gray vs dark facial hair Ska band and exaggerated character comparisons Listener email segment kicks off after backlog Husband obsessed with Instagram coastal minimalist aesthetic Comparing real life to influencer homes, bodies, vacations Pressure on wife to match size 0 influencer standards Resentment over not affording influencer lifestyle Husband asks wife to get in shape for photos Criticism framed as creative growth, dismissing feelings Emotional disconnect and absence from family life Wife feels she is competing with fantasy lifestyle Social media addiction impacting relationship expectations Coastal aesthetic explained as beach chic Hamptons vibe Hosts react to absurd social media pressure on spouse Therapist angle on unmet emotional needs behind fixation Body criticism and comparison harming relationship trust Example of body criticism contributing to divorce Attraction, communication, and sensitivity in long term relationships Advice to have honest conversation about emotional impact Suggestion to find compromise around shared interests Balance partner interests with respect and emotional safety Reframing messy life as authentic and positive Social media lifestyles described as staged and performative Influencer content compared to curated family content Obsession tied to unmet needs outside relationship Encourage expressing loneliness and competition feelings Competing attachment where hobbies replace partner connection Examples of identity consuming hobbies and social circles Risk of hobbies leading to emotional or physical affairs Debate on control vs trust in relationships Focus on where emotional energy is directed Importance of restoring emotional presence in relationship Social media addiction fueling dissatisfaction and comparison Algorithms shaping feeds and attraction patterns Cultural shift in expressing attraction publicly Decline of catcalling and public objectification norms Modern expectations around respectful comments Debate on giving compliments appropriately Suggestion wife consider leaving due to behavior Reminder emails reflect one sided perspective Advice to communicate without blame and clarify feelings Miscommunication driven by tone and body language People interpret words through personal experience Importance of clarifying meaning in conversations Warning against serious discussions over text Long distance relationship maintained through constant Zoom Emotional exhaustion from nonstop virtual interaction Relationship fading despite constant communication Question of sustainability without physical presence Need for plan to reunite in person Lack of touch and intimacy weakening bond Digital only relationships not sustainable long term Spouse hides 165000 in student loan debt Conflict over secrecy and financial transparency Trust breach seen as core issue Debate over shared vs individual debt Secrecy more damaging than financial burden Hidden decisions compared to secret luxury purchase Pattern of hiding actions to avoid conflict Therapy insight on secrecy from fear of disapproval Importance of honesty even if partner disagrees Balance independence with transparency in marriage Secrecy creating bigger relationship problems Different views on full transparency vs privacy Emotional intimacy requires openness Some prefer limited knowledge creating different dynamics Show format note chaotic start advice middle humor end People avoid conflict due to partner reactions Importance of maintaining identity in relationships Encourage asserting needs respectfully The Cost of Quiet book mention Wrap up of relationship advice segment ### Social Media https://tomanddan.com https://x.com/tomanddanlive https://facebook.com/amediocretime https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive Where to Find the Show Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682 Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2FtZWRpb2NyZXRpbWUvcG9kY2FzdC54bWw Tom & Dan on Real Radio 104.1 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990 Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s Exclusive Content https://tomanddan.com/registration Merch https://tomanddan.myshopify.com/
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    47 mins
  • LTN 29 - The Kids Are Alright

    LTN 29 - The Kids Are Alright
    Apr 24 2026

    Social Media
    https://tomanddan.com
    https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive
    https://facebook.com/amediocretime
    https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive

    Where to Find the Show
    Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682
    Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2FtZWRpb2NyZXRpbWUvcG9kY2FzdC54bWw

    Tom & Dan on Real Radio 104.1
    Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990
    Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s

    Exclusive Content
    https://tomanddan.com/registration

    Merch
    https://tomanddan.myshopify.com/
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    47 mins
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