Most people ask if avoidant women even exist. They do. And this conversation is one of the most honest and revealing looks at what avoidant attachment actually looks like from the inside of a woman who lives it every day.

Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Carly Randall, a self-identified avoidant woman and strategic business partner, for a live coaching session that covers everything from two avoidant partners trying to make a relationship work, to avoidant mothering, to why asking if you would still love me if I was a bug is actually one of the healthiest things an avoidant woman has ever said.

What you will learn in this conversation:

1- What avoidant attachment actually looks like in a woman and why men so often mistake it for selfishness 2- Why avoidant women lose respect for anxious partners and what that tells you about what they actually need 3- What happens when two avoidant people get together and why it can actually work with the right systems in place 4- Why the black and white switch of I am all in or I am completely done is one of the most dangerous patterns for avoidant women and what to do about it 5- The difference between taking space to regulate and taking space to dodge and how to tell which one you are doing 6- How avoidant mothering shows up in real life and what the biggest risks are for the children of avoidant parents 7- Why telling your kids mommy needs a break without giving them context is one of the most damaging things you can accidentally do 8- Why an avoidant woman suddenly asking for reassurance is not a sign she is becoming anxious but a sign she is finally becoming secure 9- Why the feeling that you do not want to be a burden is actually rooted in adoption and early abandonment and what it is really asking for

If you have ever wondered whether avoidant women are real, what they feel, how they parent, and whether they can actually build a deep loving relationship, this is the episode you have been waiting for.

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Are you tired of going on endless first dates that go nowhere? Sick of swiping through apps that seem to get more exhausting and less satisfying every year? You are not alone, and this conversation is going to change the way you think about finding a partner entirely.

Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Alessandra Conti, celebrity matchmaker and founder of Matchmakers in the City, for one of the most honest and practical conversations about modern dating you will find anywhere. With nearly 14 years of experience working with celebrities, royals, and high profile clients, Alessandra has seen every pattern, every mistake, and every thing that actually works when it comes to finding the right person.

What you will learn in this conversation:

1- Why dating apps are not the problem but the way almost everyone uses them is 2- What matchmaking actually is and why guided courtship has worked for all of human history while modern dating has been failing for 100 years 3- Why building female community before dating men is one of the most important things a single woman can do and why so many women resist it 4- Why no sex until monogamy is not just a values decision but a strategic one that protects your heart, your judgment, and your future 5- How good men actually respond when a woman holds her boundaries and what it tells you immediately about whether he is worth your time 6- The most destructive thing women think they are looking for in a man and what they actually need instead 7- Why men with a plan are the most attractive men in any room and what that means in practice 8- What women should never do on a first date if they actually like the man and the surprising thing they should do if they do not 9- Why both men and women are walking around wanting the same thing and completely failing to find each other and what to do about it

If you have ever felt like the modern dating world was designed to keep you single, this conversation will show you exactly why that feeling is right and what the alternative actually looks like.

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💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9

📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9

📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9

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Most people online will tell you that being feminine means being weak, giving something up, or falling into the background. This conversation is nothing like that.

Adam Lane Smith sits down with Gabby Reece, professional volleyball legend, model, author, and host of The Gabby Show, for one of the most grounded and honest conversations about what it actually means to be a feminine woman in the modern world. No performance. No agenda. Just a woman who has spent decades figuring out who she is and is willing to show you exactly what that looks like from the inside.

What you'll learn in this conversation:

1- Why femininity looks different for every woman and why trying to copy someone else's version is the wrong starting point 2- How Gabby straddled the worlds of elite sports and modeling at 18 and what that taught her about owning both sides of herself 3- Why the word submissive has been misunderstood and what it actually means when you choose it from a place of strength 5- How Gabby almost divorced Laird Hamilton at 30, what she did instead, and the 25 years of relationship that followed 6- What shiny eyes are and why this one simple habit has kept their relationship alive and exciting for over 30 years 7- Why women are afraid to ask themselves what they actually want and what gets lost when they stop asking 8- How to have hard conversations with a strong man without it turning into a battle 9- Why self care is not selfish and how reframing it changes everything for mothers and partners 10- What strong women should actually be looking for in a man and why values matter far more than status or money

If you have ever wondered whether you can be strong, capable, and fully feminine all at the same time, this conversation will show you that not only is it possible, it is the whole point.

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🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–27, 2026 | San Diego, California 4 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat-new/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/2

💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/2

📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/2

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