Angelo Somers is a writer, creator and thinker whose work explores psychology, meaning, self-development and the hidden forces that shape human behaviour.

In this conversation, we explore a question that sits beneath many of life's biggest decisions: what is actually driving us?

We discuss whether success can be built on the wrong motivations, why insecurity can be a powerful source of ambition, and what happens when the fears that once fuelled you begin to disappear.

We touch on memetic desire, Jung's concept of the Self, authenticity, purpose, suffering, self-improvement and the search for meaning.

We also examine why people become attached to their pain, whether modern society has confused suffering with virtue, and why self-awareness can sometimes become self-consciousness in disguise.

00:00 The Limits Of Self-Knowledge

02:57 Can A Good Life Be Built On The Wrong Reasons?

06:12 What If Your Insecurities Made You Successful?

08:40 When Truth Becomes A Tyrant

12:02 Are Your Desires Actually Yours?

15:12 Can You Ruin A Desire By Questioning It?

17:15 Are We Driven By Love Or Fear?

20:49 Can Purpose Be Self-Deception?

24:23 Have We Confused Suffering With Virtue?

28:17 Why Suffering Seems More Admirable Than Joy

30:57 Why People Become Attached To Their Pain

32:33 Has Modern Life Really Reduced Suffering?

34:41 When Self-Improvement Becomes Self-Obsession

38:08 Can Too Much Self-Awareness Hurt You?

42:41 Stop Chasing Destinations

45:08 What Makes Life Worth Living?

46:53 Where Curiosity Comes From

48:54 Where To Find Angelo

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Shawn Achor is a Harvard-trained positive psychologist, New York Times bestselling author, and one of the world's leading researchers on happiness and human potential.

In this conversation, we explore why beliefs may be far more powerful than we realise, how they shape perception before we are even aware of them, and why some people continue to find possibility when the odds seem stacked against them. Shawn explains why AI can calculate probabilities but can never believe you'll beat them, how social support literally changes the way we see challenges, and why the most dangerous belief a person can hold is that their behaviour doesn't matter.

We also discuss the surprising science behind placebo effects, trauma, ageing, loneliness, meaning, religion, Michael Jordan's rituals, Roger Bannister's four-minute mile, fake surgery studies, why modern life can leave us untethered, and the profound role beliefs play in shaping the trajectory of our lives.

This was one of the most thought-provoking conversations we've ever had, and I hope you enjoy it.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Why Is Changing Ourselves So Difficult?

01:59 – AI Can Predict the Odds, But It Can't Believe You'll Beat Them

03:20 – Why Probability Masks Possibility

04:02 – Richard Wiseman's Luck Experiment

06:17 – Can Belief Really Change Reality?

07:15 – The Limits of Belief

08:45 – Roger Bannister and the Four-Minute Mile

09:55 – Stereotype Threat and Human Performance

11:03 – Michael Jordan's Shorts and Serena Williams' Socks

14:12 – What Is a Belief?

16:35 – How Are Beliefs Formed?

17:00 – The Hill Study: Why Support Changes Perception

18:20 – How Modern Life Teaches Us That Our Behaviour Doesn't Matter

19:00 – How Memories Shape Beliefs

20:42 – ADHD, Identity and Educational Outcomes

22:17 – Dangerous Beliefs and Sweeping Generalisations

23:02 – Yale's Remarkable Study on Ageing

26:12 – Do People Change Through Evidence or Experience?

28:00 – Trauma Doesn't Determine Your Future

31:00 – Why We Forget Our Strength

34:16 – The Five Candles Ritual

38:24 – Navy SEAL Training, Exposure Therapy and Perspective

40:46 – Placebos, Fake Surgery and the Power of Belief

45:57 – Why Beliefs Are Becoming More Powerful

46:49 – The Nocebo Effect

48:00 – Burnout, Anxiety, Loneliness and Depression

50:12 – The Great Drift: Why Modern Life Feels Meaningless

53:00 – Shared Texts and the Need for Collective Meaning

55:49 – "Don't Waste Your Money Applying to Harvard"

58:42 – Why Probability Should Never Eliminate Possibility

1:01:22 – The Most Dangerous Belief You Can Hold

1:03:45 – Is There Something Greater Than Us?

1:06:04 – The Message Shawn Achor Would Put on a Billboard

1:08:06 – Why We Should Read Books Together

1:09:19 – Final Thoughts

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Tal Ben-Shahar is an internationally renowned scholar, teacher, and author specialising in positive psychology and the science of wellbeing. He is best known for teaching two of the most popular courses in the history of Harvard University, which attracted thousands of students and helped bring the science of happiness into the mainstream.

Tal is the co-founder of the Happiness Studies Academy, where he works to bridge academic research and practical application, helping individuals, organisations, and educators cultivate greater wellbeing, resilience, and fulfilment.

Today, we discuss a simple question. That is, what if the pursuit of happiness is the very thing making us unhappy?

We explore one of the most misunderstood ideas in psychology: that a meaningful life is not free from sadness, anxiety, grief, or disappointment - but is shaped by how we relate to them.

We discuss why resisting painful emotions often intensifies suffering, the psychology behind lasting change, the knowing-doing gap, the power of tiny habits, attention in the age of distraction, meaningful relationships, awe, gratitude, and what it truly means to live a well-lived life.

This is a conversation about happiness, but even more fundamentally, it is a conversation about being fully human.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction

00:47 - The Happiness Paradox

04:04 - The Two Levels of Suffering

06:44 - The Knowing–Doing Gap

09:24 - The Three Rs of Lasting Change

13:00 - The Myth of Radical Change

17:09 - Perfectionism and the All-or-Nothing Trap

18:29 - Psychological Compound Interest

23:07 - The Upward Spiral

26:23 - Horoscopes, Belief and Self-Fulfilling Prophecies

29:30 - Reality and Perception

31:28 - Mindset vs Circumstance

33:52 - The Attention Crisis

35:00 - How the Brain Changes Throughout Life

40:26 - The Relationship Advantage

44:51 - Why Relationships Are Built Slowly

45:48 - The Art of Listening

48:05 - Social Anxiety and Self-Focus

49:56 - The Power of Presence

51:25 - The Beginner's Mind

54:20 - The Ordinary Things That Matter

54:58 - What Does a Well-Lived Life Feel Like?

57:12 - Where to Find Tal Ben-Shahar

57:52 - Closing Remarks

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