Stop what you're doing. Seriously. Pull over if you have to, because this episode features one of the most iconic voices in the history of sex education, adult entertainment, and the non-monogamy movement — and she showed up ready to talk about everything.

Adam and Pris sit down with the legendary Nina Hartley — adult film performer, sex educator, activist, and someone who has been living intentional non-monogamy since before half of you were born. We're talking decades of swinging, triads, and fearless advocacy for pleasure, consent, and honest human connection.

This one goes deep. Like, deep deep.

• How Nina knew she was non-monogamous before she even knew what sex was — and what middle school dreams about "a room full of naked people" have to do with it
• Her first triad at 22 — and why it ended (spoiler: it wasn't the three-person structure, it was the two people she picked)
• Being the youngest swinger in every room by 15 years — in the 1980s
• Why pleasure is a birthright — and how Zen Buddhism and mindfulness connect directly to your sex life
• The truth about forgiveness nobody wants to hear (you don't have to, and Adam's mind was genuinely blown)
• Nina's breakdown of why porn is "a weird amalgamation of Monster Truck rallies and bad dinner theater" — and why it's ruining how young people approach the lifestyle
• The manosphere, toxic masculinity, and why men need to start calling out other men
• Practical gang bang planning: timelines, the audition process, the five-guy framework, and the genius concept of the gang bang doula
• Performance anxiety in the lifestyle — what Ro actually does (and doesn't) do, and why some guys just should not go to swing parties
• Does size matter? Nina breaks it down by the percentages
• Narcissistic abuse — and why it took Nina 18 years to leave
• "Man-keeping" — the concept that explains a whole lot about modern dating

Nina Hartley is sharp, funny, brutally honest, and genuinely one of the most fascinating humans we've ever had in our chairs. This is one of those episodes you'll probably listen to twice.

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